Friday, October 15, 2010

October 15 Giveaway

October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Even though I think about her every single day, today I am remembering Sweet Reese. My niece. For only spending 2 days here on earth, she has made a BIG impact on my life and so many other's as well. I love her so much.


Author, Becky Avella has been gracious enough to offer her book for a giveaway in honor of today. Becky wrote And Then You Were Gone: Restoring a Broken Heart After Pregnancy Loss after suffering four miscarriages.

I love the paragraph on the back of the book: "And Then You Were Gone is a spiritual and practical guide to healing after pregnancy loss. It points grieving hearts to real hope, and equips family, friends, churches, counselors, and others with understanding and tools for ministering to hurting families after loss."


Her book answers questions that are only natural to think. Is God mad at me? Did she really just say that? Now what? And many more. My personal favorite chapter was on how to help a friend who has suffered a loss. There is great advice in that chapter and she addresses things I would never think about but I'm so glad to know now.

If you have experienced pregnancy or infant loss or know someone who has, who you think would benefit from this book, then leave a comment on this post. I would highly recommend this book to someone who has lost a baby or to someone who has a friend or family member who has lost a baby. It is definitely beneficial to both. It has given me a new and better understanding to some of the things my family and friends have gone through.

Please leave one comment on this post with an email address if you do not have a blog. One winner will be randomly selected on Monday, October 18th. If you would like to go ahead and order the book then you can do so from Becky's website. Thank you Becky!

37 comments:

Susan said...

I am going to school to be a nurse and some day I hope to work in the NICU, the book is a must read for me. Thank you for this opportunity. Reece has touched so many of our lives, as has your entire family!

Heather said...

My sweet friend lost a pregnancy in June and I know this book would be great for her.

LStewart said...

My daughter lost her 2nd child 13 weeks into her pregnancy. This book would be great for her. I would also love to share this book with a co-worker and his wife who found out when they went for their 20 week sonogram that their baby girl had passed on to Heaven. They are now expecting their second child but still struggle with the loss of their baby girl.

Sara said...

I would love this book as I miscarried a baby at 6 1/2 weeks. I dealt with it on my own and lots of people questioned me . So it was a difficult time. Plus I know many of others who have miscarried or had still born baby.

The Smith Family said...

I lost my first pregnancy at 13 weeks. Getting pregnant and having my son is what helped heal my broken heart. I have many friends who have either suffered a loss in pregnancy or have lost babies after they were born. I think we would all benefit from this book.

Belle&Yankee said...

I am involved in a infertility support group and think this would be a great book to pass around the group as all of us have lost a child or miscarried. Thanks for telling us about it.

3LittleByrds said...

I would love this book after experiencing a loss. It's such a life changing experience and a devasting thing. Not only have I lost but working in the NICU for years I saw so many moms and dads go home without their baby.

Sherry Drennan said...

I would love the book for a dear friend. She is delivering her 30 wk stillborn baby as I type this. I have no idea what to say or do but my heart is breaking for her!

Heidi said...

That book looks great! I lost a pregnancy several months ago and am coming up on my due date. I would love to read it!

~Ashlea~ said...

I would love to have this book for a friend of mine who just lost a little baby at 16 weeks. I think it would be a great help during this time.

Miz Jean said...

I lost my first baby in 2005 and lost a nephew to stillbirth a few years later. This book sounds simply wonderful.

thesloothaaks said...

I would love a copy of this book! I am on the "friend" side of things, and I would so appreciate gaining some insight into how to be there for my friend in the way that is most helpful.

JenW said...

We lost our child Jacob Michael in 2007. It was the hardest thing I have ever gone through. In 2008 we were blessed with a healthy little girl, Chloe Isabella.
It is a shame that this subject is still considered taboo in today's world. My parents wont even acknowledge it. It's wrong for people to be made to feel like it is a bad thing.
I was amazed at how many woman suffer loses. It was through numerous sister's in the Lord who shared their stories with me that I was able to heal.
My best friend suffered a miscarriage about a year before our loss, and now her sister just did 2 weeks ago. I would love to have this book for all of us to share.
I have known Becky for years, and would love to read her story. What an amazing woman of God she is.

Giggles said...

I would like to read this book. My husband and I have three angel babies due to miscarriage (2) and a stillbirth.

The Dales said...

I just found your blog through a friend. I was 8 weeks two days ago (Wednesday) and I had an appointment for an ultrasound to find out I miscarried. Very sad and discouraged. Looking for a good, Christian book I can relate to with this. I feel so alone. Thanks.

smdale3@gmail.com

Sarah said...

I have a sweet friend who just lost a baby 3 weeks ago at 39 weeks. I think this book would be amazing for her.

Diane said...

I'm remembering that precious girl today, too. She's never far from my mind, especially when I see/feel my little one kick and hang out with Dillon. :-)

We have some friends who lost their first child at 18 weeks pregnant. They're pregnant again, but I would give this book to them (after I read it. :D).

Hope everything's going well, Shannon. Love ya!

Cuddles and Chaos said...

I have lost so many babies in utero. When I had my first loss, I remembered looking for such books and found nothing.
Sadly, I have had several friends to experience these losses. I will have to remember this book the next time somebody close to me experiences one...praying that doesn't happen though.
Christi
keenerfamily at gmail dot com

joelandbecca said...

My first baby was still born at 26 weeks. He had a sever case of skelital displaysia. We are expecting our 3rd baby now. Another boy. He looks healthy and strong. And yet, all those feelings from my first pregnancy keep coming back to me.

I am private now on our blog-so bfuessel@gmail.com

And Westin is just adorable!

Kimberly Saucedo said...

I have a friend who would really enjoy this book. She lost her son 2 years ago and it was very very hard on her. I am sure she had many questions like those asked in the book. She is expecting a little girl in a few months and this would be a great gift for her :)

AmyB said...

I would love to give this book to a friend who has suffered several miscarriages. We, too, lost a sweet baby last year. byamybee@gmail.com

Meg said...

I'm an RN, and when I was only a few weeks along in my pregnancy, a sweet woman came into my ER that had lost her baby. It broke my heart, and I could only think of the sweet little life growing inside of me and how heartbroken I would be to be in her shoes. That woman is still in my thoughts everyday, and she's since lost another baby. I pray for her all the time, and I hope God will soon bless her and her family with another child here on earth. I would love to win the book for her!

Anonymous said...

I am 59 with 3 wonderful daughters and 5 beautiful grandchildren. God has been good! But I had 3 miscarriages at 16-18 weeks with each starting in 1977. All these years have not erased the heartache that I felt during that time in my life. I often think of rocking those three babies when I get to heaven! This book will be great for many women!!

Silvy said...

i would love to give the book to my friend who just had a miscarriage.

Tina said...

Would love to read this book. I have head 3 m/c's and one ectopic pregnancy. ALos have a little girl who went to be with God at 13 months of age due to a heart defect.


Tina

Rhonda said...

I would love this! I've had 4 miscarriages, too, and now reach out to those who experience this terrible loss. I think this would be a great tool. I'd love to see her perspective on it. Thanks, Shannon!

Tara said...

I'd love to share this book with a friend of mine. Remembering your sweet Reese today.

Juicy in Italy said...

I am glad you posted this book, I am definitely going to check it out. Last year on 10.13.09 I suffered a loss through an ectopic pregnancy and then this year I suffered a miscarriage on 10.13.10. It definitely leaves me wonder wtf.

Megan & Corbin said...

My sister-in-law has a miscarriage several months ago. I would love to give her this book. Your niece is beautiful.

Emily said...

I have lost two pregnancies and wonder why this subject is not studied or talked about more. I never anticipated to lose a pregnancy and was shocked when it happened more than once. Shocked and more so devastated.
After working with our doctor and taking lots of tests, we now have a beautiful baby boy that is about a month younger than your Westin. I love to read what he is doing and see what is coming up for us! Your blog is my "go to" for ideas and upcoming events!
Thanks Shannon!
emilywbauer@gmail.com

Valerie said...

I would like to read this and also give it to my son and daughter-in-law who lost their identical twin boys in June at four months. It was so difficult as they found one of the boys had stopped developing and the other baby was still growing and doing great. They went to Ohio to do extensive testing and only made it to the ultrasound as our other grandson had passed. It has been hard for us to know what to say and they do not talk about it. I have truly needed understanding of how to communicate my love and concern with them. This book could be the answer to prayer we have waited for in how to begin to talk about this. Our hearts are tender and greive for them and our loss as well. The boys due date that would have been is fast approaching and I have not known as the mother-in-law/mother to convey my heartfelt concern for them.

rae said...

That book sounds wonderful. I would love to read it!

Lori said...

I would love to win a copy of this book. I had 2 miscarriages, then I had a healthy baby girl, but I still think about my 2 up in heaven all the time.

llaw406@yahoo.com

Fabiola said...

After two miscarriages, I've been really trying to find studies and literature to help me overcome the fear and anger that I have. And there isn't many things to help out there.

Thank you for doing this on Reese's memory.

christina said...

I think it's wonderful how you and your family have honored Reese. I love reading about her and how special she was to all of you.

Anonymous said...

I would love to read this book. I'm currently in my last year of classes for my Master's degree in Social Work. I think this would be a great tool for me.
anelling@radford.edu

Melanie Mueller said...

My sister-in-law just delivered her baby girl at just 20 weeks on Friday the 15th.She had developed an amniotic infection. Although her baby girl Caroline Elizabeth was alive and well in the womb that morning, she was stillborn at 9:55pm. They are suffering. I would love to read this book and know some way to help and also share this book with her.
P.S. Your baby boy is absolutely precious. I am a mother to three boys. They are busy but so much fun!
Blessings to you,
Melanie